Christmas is often seen as a time of joy, family, and togetherness. But for separated parents, it can also bring challenges – especially when it comes to deciding how children spend the festive period.
At Beers, we understand how emotional these conversations can be. Our Family Law team regularly helps parents navigate Christmas arrangements that work for everyone – most importantly, the children.
Start planning early
It’s never too soon to begin discussing Christmas plans. The closer the holidays get, the more pressure families can feel. Starting early gives everyone time to talk things through calmly and consider what’s truly best for the children – whether that’s alternating Christmas Day and Boxing Day, spending the morning with one parent and the evening with the other, or agreeing a longer-term pattern that repeats each year.
If discussions have been difficult in the past, consider using a neutral setting or a mediator to keep things constructive. Clear, early communication helps avoid last-minute disagreements and allows children to look forward to the season with confidence and excitement.
Focus on what matters most – your children
Every child experiences separation differently. Some find comfort in familiar traditions, while others enjoy splitting time between both homes. Try to see the holidays from your child’s perspective – what will make them feel secure, relaxed, and loved?
Arguments, even subtle ones, can leave a lasting impression, so keep discussions about arrangements away from children whenever possible. What they’ll remember most isn’t which parent they saw first, but that both of you worked together to make the holiday special.
When you can’t agree
Sometimes, despite best efforts, parents simply can’t reach an agreement. In these situations, mediation is often the next step. If that fails, a Child Arrangements Order through the Family Court may be necessary, particularly where there are safeguarding concerns or communication has broken down.
It’s important to note that court applications can take time, and hearings are unlikely to be scheduled before Christmas. Seeking early legal advice can help you understand your options and prepare effectively for the months ahead.
Support when you need it most
Christmas only comes once a year, but the relationships we build with our children last a lifetime. Taking steps now to plan and communicate openly can help ensure the festive season remains a positive experience for everyone involved.
If you’d like advice about Christmas contact arrangements or any other family law matter, our team at Beers is here to help. We offer clear, compassionate guidance tailored to your family’s unique circumstances.
Our Family team has recently grown with the brilliant Chloe Beeney joining us. You can contact Chloe in our Plymouth office on 01752 246000.